I received some interesting information from my partner about our sex life……. And it pissed me off. Be for the rant, a bit of back story….
There had been a ‘session’ recently (a few days ago) were in we had not used a condom, and to prevent baby’s I pulled out and DIDN’T ‘finish’. Aware that she hadn’t finished I then spent a further 20min ensuring that the end result for her was completed…….. Like a boss. She then went to sleep, leaving me…… ‘unfinished’. Not overly bothered I went to sleep knowing that the morning was only a few hours away ;)
So the morning comes and despite my efforts, no sex. she was happy for me to sort her out, but I had to go to work and like hell was I spending another half-hour make sure she got her ‘happy’ for me to then get up and start my day loaded like bull on steroids. So I stopped and went to work.
Last night we sat watching Dexter and after a few drinks my partner and I got talking, and this went onto the topic of sex.
She stated that she wanted me to have a condom on that night so she could have the ‘happy end result’ of sex, this led me to ask “you like using a cond*m”, she replied no, and stated that it would just allow her to ‘finish’ and then said the line “ITS NOT ALL ABOUT YOU YA KNOW” (she didn’t shout it, capslock used to draw attention the line said”.
I explained to her that regardless of if a condom is on, the time that the sex would stop would be the same and explained how the male body works. Then she mentioned her “Faking it” a couple of times. No biggy really, I’ve done it before. But the times she mentioned were not the times that I knew about (its usually really easy to spot when she fakes).
Two things about this really pissed me off.
1. “Its not all about you ya know”
Our sex life is rather routine (I know that’s not always good). And it goes like this. Me using my hands usually for around 20min to half hour ensuring that she gets the big ‘O’. Then sex, normally in the spooning position, after sex normally I will spend another 20min with my hands trying to get her that big ‘O’ again. Any attention that I receive seems to be a special occasion, normally when she is ‘on’. I don’t tend to receive the for*play thing, probably because I’m a male and females tend to think we deserve it.
my main goal is to please her, and I go out of my way to do it in that department; and that goes against my nature, its not the way I’m accustomed to. I’m used to more ‘violent’ and rougher sex with me being in charge. The sex I’m having now is totally new to me and it sometimes ([i]sometimes[/i]) seems that I’m only working to please her.
2 “Faking it”
I have done this before, but as I know how ‘self defeating’ it is I’ve never said anything. If you are going to fake it then keep your fucking mouth shut, you have no right to mention it let alone complain about it.
If you fake it then how is your partner going to know that they need to improve? Are you faking it for your partners benefit? Are you retarded?
If something hasn’t work for you speak up. Don’t fake it. Its pathetic. People then go on to say “oh I fake it all the time, he don’t know what he’s doing”…………. Well, aren’t you just a bag of help. Why not tell him. And the same go’s for guys.
If you are going to fake it, shut up and put up.
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I’m REALLY missing being in London, I had such a good time and I really did learn a thing or two when I was down in the smoggy city.
1) I’m rather vain
2) I couldn’t live without tattoos
3) I’m rather perverted
4) how to accept all of the above and more about my self.
One day I will get to be totally happy with who I am
Last day in London, last day to have that ‘London look’ (Taken with Instagram at Lee Railway Station (LEE))
Woke up at 3am with the horn BAD, nearly got it sorted but sadly it didn’t happen. And then another attempt at 7.30am, and no joy.
I hate mornings so much, I don’t sleep to well and all I want in the start of the day is sex then more sleep.
Buggery fuck nuts
Tonight’s viewing, always helps clear the head and get some inspiration, bit of geek porn lol #alien #aliens #art #inspiration #art #film #geek #porn #cool (Taken with instagram)
Like farther like son #photo #tattoo #cool #horror #life #happy #hand #blood #laugh # (Taken with instagram)
@wonderbeany we fucking need this table! #horror #table #blood #cool (Taken with Instagram at The Hive)
Some times the writing on the toilet wall really make me laugh #graphite #comic #toilet #penis #lol #photo #instagram (Taken with Instagram at Newcastle Upon Tyne)
@wonderbeany pool is her thing!!! #lol #photo #fashion #hot #sexy #eyes #social (Taken with Instagram at Newcastle Upon Tyne)
Sexy cocktails with @wonderbeany #sexy #cocktails #trendy #fashion #photo #instagram #hot #lol #drink #drunk (Taken with Instagram at Alvinos)
Them eyes @wonderbeany #eyes #hot #instagram #photo #sexy #fashion #trendy (Taken with Instagram at Akenside Traders)
The most common apps I use ever!!! I’m so fucking social #apps #social #facebook #tumblr #twitter #instagram (Taken with instagram)
@wonderbeany being all trendy and emo lol #trendy #fashion #photo #lol #cumface #holiday #emo #hot (Taken with instagram)
